The Hammock Papers: clinical narcissism

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23 November 2025

Already.

The minute you start saying something - "Ah, how beautiful! We must photograph it!" - you are already close to the view of the person who thinks that everything that is not photographed is lost, as if it had never existed, and that therefore, in order really to live, you must photograph as much as you can, and to photograph as much as you can you must either live in the most photographable way possible or else consider photographable every moment of your life. The first course leads to stupidity, the second is madness.

Italo Calvino

05 October 2025

Fancies.

However tiresome to others, the most indefatigable orator is never tedious to himself. The sound of his own voice never loses its harmony to his own ear; and among the delusions, which self-love is ever assiduous in attempting to pass upon virtue, he fancies himself to be sounding the sweetest tones.

John Quincy Adams, from Lectures on Rhetoric and Oratory: Delivered to the Classes of Senior and Junior Sophisters in Harvard University

06 September 2025

Howling.

For the whole world of mere stunts and scoops and trading and self-advertisement is spiritually a world utterly dead; although it is very noisy. It is, in the very precise and literal meaning of the phrase, a howling wilderness.

G.K. Chesterton, from "As I Was Saying"

23 January 2023

Me.

The Christiam Librarian on revisiting the library as place ...

While Harris (2007) obviously had no way of knowing that I would reference her article for this paper, her title, "Libraries with Lattes: The New Third Place", certainly foreshadowed the overall concept. Consider Bryson, Usherwood and Proctor’s (2003) description of the library in their work, Libraries Must Also Be Buildings?: New Library Impact Study: “Buildings that are well designed and managed offer an array of resources that enable people and groups to establish relationships, carry on conversations, exchange ideas, and engage the life of the mind” (p. 70). All of these concepts point to the notion of how the library fits into the life of the user rather than how the library thinks the user should be told to view the library. The use of the library should be affected by the way in which people use the space. Furthermore, Bryson et al. (2003) describes the library as being one of the following at any given time: a meeting place, a learning resource, and a comfortable and relaxing space (p. 70). The evidence presented in this paper certainly supports that. Pay careful attention to the last item in this partial list from Meyrick’s ten practical ways for a library to be recognized as a third place:
1. Create a brand.
2. Respond to community identity.
3. Aggregate and cluster.
4. Encourage discovery.
5. Fantastic design and fabulous people (2007).
Meyrick (2007) adds that if nothing else is achieved, make sure you have the best coffee in town. Again, it is not about having coffee in the library but meeting the customers’ needs. Consider this: Starbucks are not usually very big. Someone suggested most customers do not go in there to stay for long periods of time; they get their coffee and make it a part of their lives. They take it to work and bring it to the library. Another phrase I often hear students recite to tour groups in the library supports this sentiment: “The great thing about the library is you can eat and drink in here. So, you can grab a cup of coffee and a bagel at Einstein’s and come to the library and study or you can just hang out.” While providing food and drink is considered one of the key elements of good third place criteria, the other two key elements are being easy to get to and having an inviting design that encourages lingering or promotes community. In this paper’s introductory exchange between the two students, the friend’s description of the library as a place to hang out is synonymous with lingering and promoting community. The students who were waiting in line for the computers in the lab were not doing so because there were no other computers available on campus. They were waiting because they wanted to be in the library.

Sir Roger's comment bears repeating ...

Our language, our music and our manners are increasingly raucous, self-centred, and offensive, as though beauty and good taste have no real place in our lives. One word is written large on all these ugly things, and that word is "me".

23 May 2021

Your.

Alright, Libby, we've all read your blog.

16 May 2021

Importance.

A reminder of the importance of substance over symbolism ...

He is a product of the cultural decline that is rapidly consigning our artistic and philosophical inheritance to oblivion. And perhaps the principal reason for doubting Mr. Trump’s conservative credentials is that being a creation of social media, he has lost the sense that there is a civilization out there that stands above his deals and his tweets in a posture of disinterested judgment.

Sir Roger Scruton, from "What Trump Doesn’t Get About Conservatism"

Our forefathers are watching and judging.

25 March 2021

Madness.

Italo Calvino

15 November 2020

Actions.

Remember that it is the actions, and not the commission, that make the officer, and that there is more expected from him, than the title.

George Washington, Address to the Officers of the Virginia Regiment, January, 8, 1756

L.A.M.E. ... Look At Me, Everyone

Never think you’ve seen the last of anything.

Eudora Welty

BARRY HINES

"That's why it makes me mad when I take her out and I'll hear somebody say, 'Look, there's Billy Casper there wi' his pet hawk. I could shout at 'em; it's not a pet, Sir, hawks are not pets. Or when folks stop me and say, 'Is it tame?' Is it heck tame, it's trained that's all. It's fierce, and it's wild, an' it's not bothered about anybody, not even about me, right. And that's why it's great.Look, there's Billy Casper there wi' his pet hawk.' I could shout at 'em. It's not a pet, Sir. Hawks are not pets. Or when folks stop me and say, 'Is it tame?' Is it heck tame, it's trained, that's all. It's fierce, and it's wild, an' it's not bothered about anybody, not even about me right. And that's why it's great." (A Kestrel for a Knave)

WOLFGANG AMADEUS MOZART

"When I am, as it were, completely myself, entirely alone and of good cheer – say travelling in a carriage or walking after a good meal, or during the night when I cannot sleep – it is on such occasions that my ideas flow best and most abundantly. Whence, and how, they come I know not ; nor can I force them. Those ideas that please me I retain in memory and am accustomed, as I have been told, to hum them to myself. If I continue in this way, it soon occurs to me how I may turn this dainty morsel to account, so as to make a good dish of it. That is to say, agreeable to the rules of counterpoint, to the peculiarities of various instruments etc. All this fires my soul, and, provided I am not disturbed, my subject enlarges itself, becomes methodised, and defined, and the whole, though it be long, stands almost complete and finished in my mind, so that I can survey it like a fine picture or a beautiful statue at a glance. Nor do I hear in my imagination the parts successively, but I hear them, as it were, all at once. What a delight this is, I cannot tell."

WALT WHITMAN

The spotted hawk swoops by and accuses me, he complains of my gab and my loitering. I too am not a bit tamed, I too am untranslatable, I sound my barbaric yawp over the roofs of the world. The last scud of day holds back for me, It flings my likeness after the rest and true as any on the shadow’d wilds, It coaxes me to the vapor and the dusk. I depart as air, I shake my white locks at the runaway sun, I effuse my flesh in eddies, and drift it in lacy jags. I bequeath myself to the dirt to grow from the grass I love, If you want me again look for me under your boot-soles. You will hardly know who I am or what I mean, But I shall be good health to you nevertheless, And filter and fibre your blood. Failing to fetch me at first keep encouraged, Missing me one place search another, I stop somewhere waiting for you.

MARCUS AURELIUS

"Is your cucumber bitter? Throw it away. Are there briars in your path? Turn aside. That is enough. Do not go on and say, 'Why were things of this sort ever brought into this world?' neither intolerable nor everlasting - if thou bearest in mind that it has its limits, and if thou addest nothing to it in imagination. Pain is either an evil to the body (then let the body say what it thinks of it!)-or to the soul. But it is in the power of the soul to maintain its own serenity and tranquility."

VINCENT van GOGH

"What am I in the eyes of most people? A nonentity or an oddity or a disagreeable person — someone who has and will have no position in society, in short a little lower than the lowest. Very well — assuming that everything is indeed like that, then through my work I’d like to show what there is in the heart of such an oddity, such a nobody. This is my ambition, which is based less on resentment than on love in spite of everything, based more on a feeling of serenity than on passion. Even though I’m often in a mess, inside me there’s still a calm, pure harmony and music. In the poorest little house, in the filthiest corner, I see paintings or drawings. And my mind turns in that direction as if with an irresistible urge. As time passes, other things are increasingly excluded, and the more they are the faster my eyes see the picturesque. Art demands persistent work, work in spite of everything, and unceasing observation."

DAN CAMPBELL